1. Hi, I’m your therapist. It’s nice to meet you. During our time together, I will more than likely get to know you more intimately than you will ever know me, and that’s okay- that’s my job. To answer your [unspoken] question, yes it’s a job, and no, I don’t just do it for the money. I’m lucky that I get paid to fo something I love. I really do want to help you, helping others is something I like to do, and in a selfish way, it makes me feel good too.
2. If I react poorly to something, it is a reflection of me, not you. (Seriously, it’s not you, it’s me).
3. I will want to blur boundaries… what does this mean? Doing more for you than I should- attending special events, meeting for coffee, talking like friends, etc… but in the end, I will avoid this at all costs because it can only be detrimental to your therapeutic process. So, if I deny a hug, a gift, attending a special event, etc… it’s not because I don’t care about you, it’s because I do.
4. Sometimes we’ll have difficult sessions, sometimes we won’t. I will still be here after a difficult session, and I will still be here after you disclose your innermost thoughts and feelings. I won’t go anywhere, remember, I chose this career. I will not judge you (or at least I will try really hard not to), and I will understand when you lie, when you don’t show up, and when you don’t want to talk about something, because we’re human, and these reactions and defenses are part of being human.
5. I am also human, and I might make mistakes, and for this, I apologize in advance. You are the first you I have ever met, and I am learning how to work with you as we go along.
6. I am in awe of your courage, and I am humbled to know that you would share so much of you with me. Thank you.
7. Mostly, I want you to know, that I want to be with you on your journey, wherever that may lead. I can’t promise you that I’ll have all the answers or that I will fix your problems, but I can promise to be there for you, to challenge you when you need to be challenged, to make mistakes and learn from them, and most of all, I promise that this will be worth it.
the humbled therapist
Anonymous asked: What happened to your left eyebrow?
So, here’s a funny story (sarcasm involved)… or maybe it’s quite a common occurrence, I don’t know.
Anonymous asked: hi. please never stop being so lovely and wonderful
HIII AND THANK YOU! *blushes*
you are wonderful! *hugs*
Anonymous asked: So where's the selfies? ;) #wearewaiting
the selfies are on hold at the moment:) #waitingformylefteyebrowtogrowback
Anonymous asked: The other day in therapy I was discussing the likelihood of my beloved dog dying and my therapist began to cry a little bit (I admit I was as well). I guess I'm just not used to therapists showing much if any emotion. What should I make of this? Is this something that commonly happens? Thanks.
Anonymous asked: I'm 21 turning 22 this year.. I fell in love with someone and she's 37.. Do u think it's still gonna work? Do u think she would considering me??
Anonymous asked: I hope you're having a really wonderful day! *hugs* I love you <3 ~K
HI AND THANK YOU! Same to you:) much love, dear K!
Anonymous asked: Hello! I hope you're having a good day! Also, your baby animals post was amazing. (: I love you! *hugs* <3 ~K
Thank you! My day was a lot better than Monday or Tuesday, that’s for sure! I feel like March Madness is actually a thing hahaha, but yes, here’s to better days!! Hugs to you and cheers to baby animals!